Wedding etiquette, be mindful of your behavior when attending one.

Wedding etiquette, be mindful of your behavior when attending one.

At a wedding there are behaviours, cultures and standards that wedding guests are expected to observe.When the bride and groom are writing invitation cards they usually will consider these things, and anyone they think will not fit into this conformity will not be invited.

Here are ten things you should never do at a wedding:

 AVOID MAKING LONG TIRING SPEECHES

People come to weddings to have a good time and are only interested in the things that add to their joy. Guests do not care about how stressful it was for you in the planning process or how you went out of your way as the organiser, avoid saying all those things in your speech, I’ve seen people sleeping during such long speeches.

 ALWAYS SMILE FOR THE CAMERA

You would really want to avoid looking at the pictures after the wedding and find yourself in a sombre state. The couple might think you were jealous of their wedding, especially if yours was not as good as theirs or if you are still single.

 AVOID EATING FOODS YOU DO NOT KNOW

I once attended a Nigerian wedding were they served their traditional cuisine and the usual wedding foods for the rest of the guests; I decided to stretch myself into something new and ate that cuisine. This was a wrong call as I had to literally ground myself in the restrooms for the remainder of the ceremony and missed out.

 DO NOT TALK ABOUT DIVORCEES

So, yes we may meet some old friends and get carried away in reminiscences, which is normal, but try not to talk about dear friends who recently got divorced although they all had beautiful weddings or start giving divorce statistics, imagine what the couple might think of these unfortunate circumstances in their day of glory.

 AVOID SHOWING UP WHEN YOU DID NOT RSVP

Most people are very particular about invitations, and one has to confirm attendance in time after receiving the invitation. These types of weddings usually have regulations that do not permit gate crashers to infest. It can be an embarrassing moment to gate crash and not find anywhere to sit or be inappropriately dressed.

 NEVER INTERRUPT THE PHOTOGRAPHER

Photographers are responsible for capturing memories at the wedding, so avoid unnecessary loitering as you might get in the photographers’ view or disturb the recording process by stumbling on camera cables.

 DO NOT GET DRUNK BEFORE THE WEDDING IS OVER

I  once attended a wedding where one of the boys from the bridal team had a little too much to drink and passed out at the head table before the wedding was even over, he had to be taken off to the backstage to sober up and only woke up later when the ceremony was about to close.NEVER STICK YOUR FINGERS IN THE CAKE

There are times when you feel like no one is watching you and you may be tempted to do that which you do not normally do, but the truth is, at public places, there is no such thing as privacy because someone is always watching you. It is a very disgusting thing to do even when there is nobody watching you, no matter how appetising. 

 DO NOT BRING RANDOM PEOPLE

So, you may be invited to a wedding where all your friends are bringing dates, except you and you decide to just pick anyone to bring. At a certain wedding,there was this one girl who came with an uncle to the bride was caught stealing from the in-laws and since then, every time there is a family function or whenever the family go through the wedding pictures, they always ask what happened to the girl, in other words, the family now have a thief in their wedding photos and this is now a mental stain to the uncle.

 DO NOT BRING UP SUBJECTS OF THE GROOM/BRIDE’S EX’S

This can be the big spoilsport for the whole ceremony. If you are ever given the opportunity to give a speech at a wedding and you do not know what to say and you decide to say something about either of the couple’s ex, please do away with that thought because it creates comparisons between the two and this will almost always have long term repercussions in the marriage.